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Get Over It.
Mar. 30th, 2009 06:30 pmIf you have been deeply hurt by an incident or situation that happened a long time ago and have not gotten the proper care on resolving the issues from said incident, only to have someone (specifically someone involved in said incident) tell you to basically just get over it because so much time has already passed, how do you respond? How would you feel? Where do you start on "getting over" it?
[Poll #1375248]
"Time heals all wounds" is a misleading phrase. In many situations, it can just make it worse. The guilt that the other person may have can hinder personal growth for both parties, because they want to forget about what they feel guilty about. Time passes, and the issues are still not communicated or resolved, so it festers as time goes on.
All of these breaks and instances of avoidance seem like an excuse for the other person to not be bothered with it. "I'm guilty enough as is, I don't want to hear your nagging about it anymore," is how it's translated. I can understand that, I hate being reminded of my own mistakes all the time. But simply trying to distract me from it and trying to cheer me up when I'm angry and upset to begin with, even if the intentions are good, will only make me angrier. I want to confront this issue, not put it off any longer, or have the issue and my feelings about it be trivialized just because "it happened a long time ago" or some such.
Unfortunately, whenever I DO have the opportunity to confront an issue, I don't have the means to do so. I get tongue-tied, hesitant, and unable to accurately word my problems, and often forget. Then the issue is dragged on because I later remember things I should have said, or wanted to say. It is annoying, and I wish I knew how to change that.
Anyhow, I feel it's counter-productive, because I know I feel insecure and like utter crap when being told such. I think to myself, "Well, you just don't understand," and that would only accomplish anger on their side, and it helps no one.
[Poll #1375248]
"Time heals all wounds" is a misleading phrase. In many situations, it can just make it worse. The guilt that the other person may have can hinder personal growth for both parties, because they want to forget about what they feel guilty about. Time passes, and the issues are still not communicated or resolved, so it festers as time goes on.
All of these breaks and instances of avoidance seem like an excuse for the other person to not be bothered with it. "I'm guilty enough as is, I don't want to hear your nagging about it anymore," is how it's translated. I can understand that, I hate being reminded of my own mistakes all the time. But simply trying to distract me from it and trying to cheer me up when I'm angry and upset to begin with, even if the intentions are good, will only make me angrier. I want to confront this issue, not put it off any longer, or have the issue and my feelings about it be trivialized just because "it happened a long time ago" or some such.
Unfortunately, whenever I DO have the opportunity to confront an issue, I don't have the means to do so. I get tongue-tied, hesitant, and unable to accurately word my problems, and often forget. Then the issue is dragged on because I later remember things I should have said, or wanted to say. It is annoying, and I wish I knew how to change that.
Anyhow, I feel it's counter-productive, because I know I feel insecure and like utter crap when being told such. I think to myself, "Well, you just don't understand," and that would only accomplish anger on their side, and it helps no one.
I dislike subject lines.
Mar. 8th, 2009 10:21 amI've gotten back into the bad routine of feeling nauseated immediately after eating. I don't eat too much at once, I try to eat more than just when necessary, and haven't strayed from that habit, so I don't understand why I suddenly feel sick every time I eat. I'm trying to stay away from my old habit of only eating once the entire day because I'm too sick and weak to eat any more. This just means I'll have to try even harder to eat healthier things. I just had a waffle, so that ought to be filling enough.
I've been wondering if I should even be thinking about Kumoricon or Comic-con International. I thought that if I can't go to K-con (for certain reasons), I could at least go to CCI for a day or two and hang out with Shannon and Cyri for awhile. I forget when Natalie's having her wedding, exactly, but I do know that it's this summer. Which means that I'm not even sure if I'd be able to go to CCI either. I wanted to get a job so I can pay for it all myself, but that doesn't look like the best idea right now. I don't know what to do. :(
I have doodles to post, but I keep putting them off. I'm sorry! I'll get to them soon! It's just that the offering is so slim and disappointing at the moment.
Also, does anyone remember the movie Fluppy Dogs? I found it on youtube, and it was a blast from the past. I also watched some of The Wuzzles and Gummi Bears. Oh, 80's cartoons. ;_;
I've been wondering if I should even be thinking about Kumoricon or Comic-con International. I thought that if I can't go to K-con (for certain reasons), I could at least go to CCI for a day or two and hang out with Shannon and Cyri for awhile. I forget when Natalie's having her wedding, exactly, but I do know that it's this summer. Which means that I'm not even sure if I'd be able to go to CCI either. I wanted to get a job so I can pay for it all myself, but that doesn't look like the best idea right now. I don't know what to do. :(
I have doodles to post, but I keep putting them off. I'm sorry! I'll get to them soon! It's just that the offering is so slim and disappointing at the moment.
Also, does anyone remember the movie Fluppy Dogs? I found it on youtube, and it was a blast from the past. I also watched some of The Wuzzles and Gummi Bears. Oh, 80's cartoons. ;_;
Some guy was following me in his car at the park, then drove up to me and asked multiple times if I wanted a ride with him. I refused every time, and then I noticed that his pants were down and he looked like he was masturbating while driving. I ran away, and he sped off in the opposite direction. Called the police, they came over to ask me more questions, and they just left.
I feel really icky.
I feel really icky.
